My name is Ruth H and I have been on this journey of Recovery for the last decade. In my roles of sponsor and counsellor, there have been many visits to the steps for me and the women who seek a better way to live life on life’s terms. Within these connections, of giving guidance, offering and getting suggestions, and the therapeutic value of one addict helping the other, we begin with step one…..
“We admitted that we were powerless over our addiction, that our lives had become unmanageable”
What makes us addicts is the disease of addiction- not the drugs (any mind or mood altering substance, gambling, and alcohol), not our behaviour but our disease. We find a measure of comfort in realizing that a disease, not a moral failing has caused us to reach a rock bottom.
The first step is the beginning of the recovery process. The “we”, is so important as it offers addicts an invitation out of the isolation of active addiction and into the fellowship of Recovery. We are not alone, nor are any individual who seeks recovery. You need company on this road; this journey is
Recovery is a process, it takes time, it takes patience, it takes everything you got..
My name is John an Alcoholic living my life in recovery for the past 3 years.
The focus of the first three steps is on the spiritual principles of openmindness, acceptance and willingness.
The Fourth Step is a method for learning about ourselves, and it is as much about finding our character assets as it is about identifying the exact nature of our wrongs. This Step is an action step which requires personal input and a focus on the spiritual principles of Honesty, Humility and Courage.
I felt fear in approaching the Step and shame over each imperfection for which I would have to take responsibility. To apply myself to Step four I had to feel my fear, change my attitude and look at the Step as a means of making peace with my past. Humility, not humiliation is the long term goal of the fourth step inventory.
Humility, as a word and as an ideal, has a very bad time of it in our world. Not only is the idea misunderstood; the word itself is often intensely disliked. Many people